He’s Gone, All The Way Gone… (0)
November 11th, 2008 by Deviant Advice, under Advice.
Dear Deviant Advice.
I feel so bad. Years ago I lost the man who I loved so much because I couldn’t stop being selfish. Now he’s gone forever and I don’t know what to do so that I can move on. It hurts to know that I made such a mistake. How do I fix this?
- DC, Burlington
Oh wow DC. Now that’s a situation you got there. They say that time heals all wounds and, certainly, time shall heal yours. That said, it sounds like there’s some key lessons you can glean from this.
1) Selfishness… glad you figured out that you were selfish. It’s best if you involve the other partner in your relationship instead of just treating it like some emotional land-grab, so good for you for getting your head out of your ass.
2) Loss… it’s good that you know you lost him forever. Maybe next time you’ll actually participate in the relationship, which always helps.
3) Fixing it… you can’t. You fucked up and now it’s too late. Just try to keep the points where you screwed up in mind and don’t duplicate those mistakes. It’s pretty damn simple, really.
And that’s the biggest piece of advice I can give you here. Realize you fucked up don’t repeat the same fuck-ups and you’ll be good.
